Mutual Masturbation
Mutual masturbation is one aspect of physical intimacy that can contribute significantly to building a stronger, more satisfying relationship. While it may still be considered a taboo topic by some or a slightly more vulnerable act to perform in front of a partner, it's essential to recognise the benefits this activity can bring to your relationship. While we often associate masturbation as a private act, doing it with your partner can be a fun way to explore other ways of being stimulated. It can also help a couple overcome obstacles such as pain or performance anxiety or even spice things up when things feel repetitive or if a long-distance relationship is making intimacy difficult.
The Advantages of Mutual Masturbation
One thing to remember is that mutual masturbation involves a high level of trust and vulnerability. By engaging in it, you and your partner expose your most intimate selves and show a deep level of trust in each other. It's the perfect opportunity to learn how each other's bodies work and, most importantly, like to be touched. While individual preferences and experiences may vary, there are several potential benefits associated with mutual masturbation.
Enhanced Communication
Effective communication is the lubrication of any healthy relationship. Engaging in mutual masturbation requires open and honest discussions about desires, boundaries, and fantasies. As you and your partner engage in this activity, you'll naturally communicate more about what feels pleasurable and what doesn't. If you don't verbally say it, you'll most certainly see it. Over time, you'll gain a better understanding of each other's bodies, preferences, needs, and what really gets their juices flowing. I highly recommend you both debrief after exploring mutual masturbation and tell each other what turned you on the most.
Closing the Orgasm Gap
One of the key benefits of mutual masturbation is that it focuses on the satisfaction of both partners simultaneously. Unlike some sexual activities that may prioritise one partner's pleasure over the other, mutual masturbation allows both individuals to experience pleasure together. This balance helps ensure that each partner feels equally valued and satisfied.
Reduced Performance Anxiety & Help With Painful Intercourse
Many individuals struggle with performance anxiety in sexual relationships. Mutual masturbation can alleviate some of this pressure as it creates a more relaxed and open environment for exploration. This can lead to reduced anxiety, increased comfort, and a greater willingness to experiment with new techniques and fantasies. By promoting a sense of ease and acceptance, mutual masturbation can help break down barriers that may have previously hindered your physical and emotional connection. Also, since mutual masturbation doesn't have to involve penetration, there's less pressure to meet certain expectations or perform acts that some may feel uncomfortable doing. This can help alleviate the anxiety or fear that can contribute to painful intercourse and allow time for relaxation and extra time for stimulation needed for orgasm.
Exploring Voyeurism and Exhibitionism
Mutual masturbation can be a consensual and enjoyable activity for adults who have a keen interest in exploring voyeurism and exhibitionism as part of their sexual experiences. Voyeurism involves the act of watching others engage in sexual activity, while exhibitionism involves the act of showing one's sexual activities to others. Engaging in mutual masturbation with a partner who shares these interests can be a safe and exciting way to fulfil these desires.
Low Risk of STIs
Mutual masturbation is a form of sexual activity that carries a lower risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) compared to activities involving an exchange of bodily fluids. It can be an option for couples seeking to engage in sexual activity while minimising the risk of STIs or for those still waiting for their test results. Just make sure to use your own toys only, as passing on each other's bodily fluids defeats the purpose.
Stay Connected When You Are Apart
Engaging in mutual masturbation can be a great way to stay connected and introduce excitement into your sexual routine. This novelty can reignite the spark in your relationship and help you both maintain a high level of attraction and excitement for each other when you have to be apart. There are so many fantastic pieces of sex tech that allow you to control each other's pleasure from miles apart. I recommend checking out the We-Vibe App controlled collection.
How To Set The Scene And Using Toys
Setting the scene for mutual masturbation and incorporating the use of toys can make the experience more exciting and enjoyable for both partners, especially for those who need extra stimulation. Here's how you can set the scene for the perfect experience:
Set the mood: Create a sensual atmosphere by using your favourite bedding and arranging some pillows for comfort. You can also use scented candles, essential oils, or incense and some sexy music or porn playing in the bedroom for extra stimuli.
Select your toys: If you plan to incorporate sex toys, make sure you have them to hand. Choose toys that are appropriate for your preferences and ensure they are clean and charged. Popular options might include vibrators, dildos, anal toys, cock rings or even couples toys that you can control for each other using app control.
Begin with foreplay: Engage in some mutual foreplay before moving on to mutual masturbation. Kissing, touching, and caressing each other can help build anticipation and desire.
Lubrication: Have a good quality lubricant at hand, as this can enhance the experience and reduce any discomfort. Make sure the lubricant is compatible with the toys you plan to use.
Conclusion
Mutual masturbation facilitates open communication, trust, vulnerability, mutual satisfaction, and personal growth. When practised with care and respect for each other's boundaries, mutual masturbation can lead to a stronger, more intimate relationship. It's important to remember that every couple's dynamic is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. The key is to engage in this activity with love, respect, and a shared commitment to nurturing your connection.