Why May is the month to try mutual masturbation
Mutual masturbation refers to the act of engaging in self-stimulation with a partner present. While individual preferences and experiences may vary, there are several potential benefits associated with mutual masturbation.
We often associate masturbation as a private act that we do alone. But doing it with your partner can be a fun way to explore other ways of being stimulated, overcome obstacles such as pain or performance anxiety or even spice things up when things feel repetitive.
I tried mutual masturbation for the first time last year, and it was nothing short of sexy and a massive turn-on for both of us. Despite not touching and only watching, it was incredibly intimate and brought us closer. It gave us both the opportunity to watch and learn and also wet our appetite for voyeurism.
So what are the benefits? How do you do it?
Intimacy and connection for couples old and new
Mutual masturbation can enhance the intimacy and connection between partners. It allows for a shared sexual experience where both individuals actively participate and observe each other's pleasure. Mutual masturbation encourages open communication about desires, preferences, and boundaries. It allows partners to explore and understand each other's bodies, sexual responses, and what feels pleasurable for them. Mutual masturbation can work in all relationships, whether you are just getting to know each other or have been together for years. Use it as an opportunity to learn and grow together.
Reduced pressure and performance anxiety
Mutual masturbation can help alleviate performance anxiety, removing the pressure to "perform". Instead, it focuses on shared pleasure and allows individuals to relax and enjoy the experience without concerns about satisfying their partner. If you worry about performance anxiety, ask your partner if they will perform for you first, and you'll jump in when you're ready.
An excellent alternative for those who struggle with ED or pain on penetration
Mutual masturbation is a great way to avoid pain and focus solely on pleasure. If you are struggling with pain on penetration or ED, mutual masturbation is a great way to prevent pain and discomfort. Here you can set up an area that feels the most comfortable for you, whether it be in the bath, having tools laid out next to you, or even facing each other without touching. Use your imagination here!
Safer Sex
Mutual masturbation is a form of sexual activity that carries a lower risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) compared to activities involving an exchange of bodily fluids. It can be an option for couples seeking to engage in sexual activity while minimizing the risk of STIs or for those still waiting for their test results.
Foreplay and helping build excitement
Mutual masturbation can be incorporated as part of foreplay, building anticipation and arousal before engaging in other sexual activities. It can enhance sexual arousal and help create a more satisfying sexual experience for both partners.
My tips to help make mutual masturbation more exciting
Incorporate toys and watch each other use them
Put on some ethical porn and lay next to each other, and engage in mutual masturbation
Take turns and alternate between pleasuring yourselves and watching your partner.
Maintain eye contact with your partner during mutual masturbation to help deepen the connection
Guide each other without touching
Explore erogenous zones and encourage your partner to show you what feels good for them
Be verbal and express your desires, fantasies, and feelings.
Remember, it's important to have open and honest communication with your partner about desires, boundaries, and consent. Every individual and relationship is unique, so what works for one couple may not work for another. Mutual masturbation can be a pleasurable and intimate experience if both partners are comfortable and enthusiastic about it.